Night Owls Membership Code of Conduct

1. Introduction

1.1 Night Owls is a curated community of people who want to attend s*x-positive events. By applying and being accepted as a member, you agree to abide by this membership Code of Conduct (and any subsequent variations of this document) and the event rules if attending a Night Owls event.

1.2 Being a member or ticket holder does not entitle you to enter our events. Night Owls retains the right to refuse entry for anyone that does not show respect or adhere to the following rules on privacy, dress code, phones, consent etc.

2. Privacy and security

2.1 The privacy and security of our members is our priority. The location of our events will only be given to event ticket holders. As an event ticket holder you agree to not share the location with third parties.

2.2. Only approved members of Night Owls can buy tickets to events with playspaces. (Other events may be open to non-members.) Ticket holders must bring photo ID with them to events with playspaces and membership will be cross checked at the door. Any ticket holder found not holding membership will not be permitted to gain entry and no refund will be given. To ensure the diversity and security of our events, no tickets will be available on the door. Tickets for events with playspaces are strictly non-refundable and non-transferable to another event or person. Disregarding these terms and attempting to sell a place to another person without our permission, will result in an immediate membership ban.

2.3 No photos, videos or sound recordings are permitted at any time. Night Owls events may have a house photographer. They will always ask for your consent before taking a photograph. If you do not wish to be photographed, please request an orange wristband at the door. Event photos are the property of Night Owls and may be used for marketing purposes. Night Owls pictures may be shared in private members groups. (Any activity in playspaces will never be recorded.)

3. Dress code

3.1 All Night Owls events will have a dress code. We expect members to make an effort with their appearance. Members are welcome to arrive at the event in street clothes and change at the event but they will be required to show their outfit at the door. Members who show up at events without making an effort may be denied entry to the event or have their membership revoked.

4. Respect, consent and behavior

4.1 Night Owls community and events are built on the core values of respect and consent. Members are expected to behave in a respectful manner to others at all times. Phobic attitudes towards race, gender, s*xual orientation and body type will not be tolerated. Don’t assume preferences or gender - ask first.

4.2 Consent is at the core of all our events. Verbal permission should always be sought before touching someone else. Do not crash an existing scene - wait to be invited to join in. This goes for conversations as well. If someone expresses they do not wish to be a conversation with you, respond gracefully and walk away. “Thank you for your no” is a great response in this situation. 

4.3 No always means NO and it is a complete answer. Maybe also means No. The correct etiquette is not to question any individual's answer. Aggressive, coercive, disrespectful or manipulative communication, verbal or non-verbal, is not tolerated in any form.

4.4 If someone has asked you to stop doing something, you should do so immediately and leave the area. There should be no assumption that previous playing with a person or group indicates permanent or future permission during the evening or on other events and permission should be confirmed at each encounter.

4.5 We have a zero tolerance policy to harassment of any kind. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable or not respecting this Code of Conduct and event rules, please inform a member of the Night Owls staff or the venue staff immediately who can then deal with the situation on the spot. You are welcome to email us after the event as well.

4.6 Night Owls requires our guests to not over intoxicate with alcohol or other drugs so they are incapable of making informed decisions. Any guest found over-intoxicated will be asked to leave the event with no refund and their membership of Night Owls may be revoked.

4.7 The s*x-positive scene is a small community where many of us are well-connected. Your behavior at Night Owls events could have consequences with wider event organizations and vice-a-versa if peoples’ safety is thought to be at risk.

5. Playroom etiquette

5.1 Please read our rules of play before entering any of the play spaces. Playspaces will be guardianed. You are required to follow the instructions of the guardian if they ask you to do something.

5.2 If there is a play space at an event, this will be monitored by an experienced Night Owls staff member. Due to the nature of the activity and potential for harm, guests must follow the lead of the guardian at all times who will intervene if they feel someone is unsafe.

5.3 Our play areas are available equally to all guests so please be mindful of other guests wishing to use the play areas after you. Please be considerate of others in the playrooms.

5.4 Safe play must be adhered to at all times. We will provide some supplies, but please do bring your own also.

5.5 Guests are required to clean up after themselves. Bins, wet wipes and towels will all be provided. Please leave the space as you found it.

6. Guardians & How to Report Any Concerns

To help maintain a safe and comfortable space for everyone, we will have Guardians present throughout the event. They will be wearing pink glowing body bands, making them easy to identify if you need support.

If you experience or witness any issues related to consent or safety, here are your options for how to report them:

  1. Find a Guardian (wearing pink glowing body bands) and speak with them directly.

  2. Approach an Event Host, who will be available throughout the night.

  3. Email reports@nightowlsmeet.com (you can remain anonymous if you prefer) to share concerns after the event.

We deeply appreciate everyone’s commitment to fostering a space where all attendees feel safe and respected. If you have any questions or need clarification, don’t hesitate to reach out.